Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Fingering a Woman Right

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Fingering a Woman Right
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Using your fingers on a woman's vagina can reap amazing results — given that you use the right finger techniques. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo and amount of fingers.

So, today's tip is offering up a bunch of finger techniques that most women will love. Before you get to work, however, there's one thing that's certain: A woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina with these finger techniques. You can't just shove your fingers inside her or rub her clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So, remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.

Here are some finger techniques that will surely press all her right pleasure buttons:

The rubber
The clitoris is the place to stimulate for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you've put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in a circular motion. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should you go so fast that you end up losing focus.

If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside the vagina at a rhythmic pace. Take cues from her reactions to see if she's one of these women.
The fastest finger

Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or does she like to hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.

For this finger technique, you'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.

The helping hand
If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll keep getting wetter. While using the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina. The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. It's not a race, however; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know.

The screw
In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and comes out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.

Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.

The G-spot indicator
Sitting in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your finger(s) inside her and make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.

The shocker
If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinkie finger in heranus (your hand must be sideways — that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.

Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina — it may lead to an infection.

The slider
This finger technique needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver.
can't put my finger on it

Manipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.

Until next time, keep those fingers neat and trim, and show her what you can do with them.

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Why should you finger her in the first place?
As you might know, men have a really predominant erogenous zone – women basically have the same thing, but the vagina is kind of an asshole (not literally, at least in this sense not…), really the cat of genitals and you have to flatter it and ensnare it before it’s ready to be pleasured. Don’t ask me why, it seems like a crude joke, but that’s how it is, so we have to deal with it. Bottom line: Apply the finger (or the tongue, but that’s not the issue here) before you can apply your dick.

That’s why.

Also, for the more selfless people of the male gender, it’s scientifically proven that some unidirectional attention is seen as politeness by most of the women.

No, seriously, clitoral stimulation works much better on most of the women than vaginal stimulation, so that’s why you have to direct your focus towards there to make her horny.

First things first
Clean your nails! You don’t cute stuff in Teflon pans with sharp knives, you don’t put your hands under the lawn mower when it’s still on, and you don’t finger a pussy with long finger nails. There are sensitive mucous membranes down there! I have no idea how all the porn stars do it with their 3 inch fake nails – a lot of training or a lot of pain resistance, I guess. So cut the nails. And wash your hands before (or keep them clean in general – that’s not only fingering advice, but life advice. You’re welcome.). Once again: Mucous membranes – they suck everything off your hand, and dirt is not something you want to have in your body.

Keep it slow
Now as I said, female genitalia are somewhat dumber than their male counterparts. Dicks immediately know what’s going on, pussies have to be introduced slowly to the idea that there’ll be some sexual contact soon. Btw, let me say at this point that women are as various as – I don’t know… they’re fucking various. So what I’m telling you here can be completely wrong for a woman, but completely right for the other one. In my opinion, what I’m telling you is what accounts for most of the women. There is no ultimate truth (you see, we already got to philosophy – we’re very close to religion).

So work your way down there, pay attention to every body part, get only slowly to the sensitive parts and take your time before you get to her treasure chest.

Keep it moist
If you begin with the whole fingering thing, it’s important that your finger is moist. Now it may look somewhat creepy if you put your finger in your mouth first or do whatever with your own body fluids, so just search for moisture on your woman. There, everything depends on how wet she gets – if she’s no waterfall, you normally search in her inner labia. Be tender – as long as it’s not wet down there, everything is a bit irritable.

What to do, what to do?
Cool – she’s horny, she’s wet, you can do your thing. Now don’t panic! It’s just sex, after all. Always look at her reactions of what you’re doing. Look if she wants your finger in her or if she prefers some light (or hard) pressure on her clit at one moment or the other. For those who are not familiar with female body language: Moaning is good, grinding is good. A silent and motionless woman is either not really comfortable, or she’s dead. In both cases, you won’t be able to give her an orgasm.

You can also do both things: Remember, you’ve got two hands, you can work with that! Or put your palm on your clit and finger her at the same time – that works as well. But as I said: Look at her reactions, she’ll tell you herself.

Intensify!
It’s like that with everything in life: Begin slow, continue faster, harder, stronger. Even good old Goethe said that somewhere. I think. Your girl will tell you by the movements of her hips how fast, how deep, how intense she wants it. Maybe, she’s the kind of woman who gets really sensitive when she’s close to orgasm, so it could also be possible that you’ll have to slow things down. But generally, it works the other way.

The only thing is: Don’t hurt her. Imagine yourself getting a nice wet blowjob and suddenly, you’ve got her teeth buried deep in your shlong. That’s how it is when you’re to rough towards the end – and towards the beginning, for that matter – just don’t hurt her at all, except when she asks for it, and I don’t mean it that “she asked for it”, but when she really asks you to be a little bit rougher. You’ll catch the drift.

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Manual stimulation is often something that only happens in the early days of a relationship, before oral and penetrative sex enter the scene. However, the hands can pleasure a woman in wonderfully satisfying ways. Even if this doesn’t turn into a way to make a woman orgasm, it can still be wonderful foreplay.

Every woman is different but almost all women masturbate, so she'll probably know exactly what turns her on. Ask your lover to masturbate in front of you so that you can see what she likes. Put your hand on top of hers to feel the way that she flexes her hand, how fast she moves and feel how much pressure she uses and where.

If she's too shy to show you, get exploring. Don't just use one hand. Let the other caress her breasts and stroke her thighs — or use the fingers of one hand to focus on her clit, and the other for penetration. Start with one finger and only add more as she gets more aroused/asks for more.

Lube will make your fingers glide more sensually and ease insertion (if she likes it, rather than purely clitoral play).

The clitoris extends far further than the small "button" most people assume it to be and can be stimulated by cupping the pubic mound and gently rocking your hand. Other techniques include:
  • Spreading the labia with one hand, with the heel of your hand on the clit, using fingers from the other hand for penetration.
  • Sliding your fingers in a V-shape up and down the clitoris.
  • Tapping the soft pad of your fingers over the pubic mound and clitoris.
  • Swirling your fingertips around the clitoris in ever-decreasing circles.

Experiment with different techniques, speeds and pressures to see what works best, but remember to start gently and work your way up — the clit can be highly sensitive.

Using your fingers on a woman isn't just part of foreplay, it can be a wonderful way to show how much you love pleasuring her; an easy way to thrill her when you're not in the mood; and can also come in handy if you 'finish first' during sex and don't want to leave her high and dry. There are so many sensitive spots in one place that learning how to finger a woman can be elevated into an art once you've gotten to know her body.

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Most men these days are quite selfish when it comes to sex! As long as they get their own orgasm they are usually happy, even if their partner isn’t. It’s rare for men to really engage in sex and aim to please their female partners. It would be a great thing if more men figured out how to finger a girl in a way she would enjoy. This would result in a much more intimate and loving relationship. Plus, knowing how to finger her will definitely add more excitement to your sex life.
The thing is that fingering can be a challenge, especially for men who don’t have that much experience. Well, here are a few pointers that should help you on your way to becoming a fingering master!

Tips On How To Finger A Girl Correctly
Any man who knows how to use his fingers to pleasure a girl is at a massive advantage to other guys. It’s like the Holy Grail of sex. Everyone knows that most women take a long time to reach genuine orgasm. They need proper stimulation so that they can become aroused enough to reach sexual satisfaction. So, what is the first step?

Prepare
Tell your partner to drink plenty of fluids before you have sex. This will help make sure she will be very wet when you touch her. It helps her to replenish her prostatic fluid as well, which is similar to seminal fluid. However, she should not drink too much or she will end up having the urge to urinate.
A towel over the sheets would help catch the fluids if she squirts when she climaxes. Also, set the mood, lower the lighting, play some smooth music, and get her ready to enjoy it.

Take Time To Relax
Relaxing will take the pressure off the sexual act. Activities that calm both your nerves will help you both engage in each other more intensely. This is one of the basics of foreplay. Kiss her, touch her, tell her how beautiful she is and how much to want to please her. Her mind needs to be at ease and she needs to feel like she can totally trust you and let herself go.

Give Her A Clitoral Orgasm First
You should stimulate her clitoris to give her an orgasm using either your fingers or your tongue. If you use your fingers, make sure she is very wet before you start or use some lube. The first orgasm will help her get ready for you to enter her with your fingers. The reason why she will be squirting later on is because of the longer and stronger orgasms that she will have. This is a tip that’s usually overlooked in learning how to finger a girl successfully.

Stimulate Her G Spot
Stimulate her more by inserting your index finger or into her vagina and finding her G-spot. The G-spot is a slight bump on her vaginal wall about three inches inside her. You will be able to find it with your fingers once she is aroused. It’s walnut sized and has a different texture than the rest of the vagina.

You should use a backward and forward motion with your finger over this area. Press fairly hard and increase the speed as she gets into it and is enjoying herself.

Stimulate Her U-spot
You can miss this step out if you want to. Sometimes finding and touching the G-spot is hard enough to do the first time. You can always add this sexy move in another time. The U-spot is the bump on the upper portion of the vagina. If you massage this area together with the G-spot it will make her even more sexually aroused and ready for an incredible orgasm. Maybe even multiple orgasms!

When She Is Close To Cumming
When she feels like she needs to pee, she is close to cumming. It’s not pee that she’s going to release but her sexual fluids. When she releases, it may squirt out and there could be a lot of it, that’s why you needed the towel! But some girls, especially if they haven’t been fingered like this before, may only release a small amount of ejaculate. That’s fine….you can always try again tomorrow night.

Hopefully these tips help you give your girl a great night and lead to a more fulfilling sex life for you both. It takes patience and practice when learning how to finger. Just take your time to learn well and you’ll be fine.

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How to Finger a Woman to Climax
  1. Start by having her lie on her back naked and begin with things like kissing and caressing her lips, face, neck, breasts, etc., and then SLOWLY make your way south. Once you’re down below the waist, take the time to rub and caress her all around her sweet spot until it seems that she can’t take the teasing anymore.
  2. When you’re ready to move to her womanhood, use your entire hand. With your palm down, rub the area lightly at first and then add a little more pressure.
  3. She should be getting wet by now, but if not, take some lube or massage oil and pour a little on just above her pubic bone and massage it down and around her vagina.
  4. Now you can move onto using your fingers. With your index finger; run it gently up and down along her slit and then around the sides of her ‘lips’. The point of this is to tease her and make her crave your finger inside of her. The teasing and anticipation will send her through the roof.
  5. Next, let your finger graze her clitoris for a second and tease the rest of her womanhood with it. Each time you pass her clitoris, let your finger linger a little longer until you can see that it’s swollen with excitement and rock hard. (Yes, women get ‘boners’ too!)
  6. Now that she’s really turned on; run your finger in a couple of tiny circles over her clitoris and then slide it down her slit and slowly push it inside of her and push it in and out slowly a few times before pulling it back out.
  7. Now it’s time to focus even more attention on her clitoris. Use your index and middle fingers and put them on each side of her nub so you’re holding it between your fingers. Now start to move it up and down. This move is basically like jerking her off, only instead of your manhood, you’re jerking off a hard little nub! Keep at it until you can see that she’s getting close to climaxing.
  8. When she’s writhing around all over the bed and almost there; slide two fingers inside of her and use your thumb to start rubbing her nub as your fingers pump in and out of her. Imagine that you’re trying to get the pad of your thumb to meet and work in unison with the pads of the two fingers that are inside of her, the same way that you would to snap your fingers.
  9. Continue this move and add more pressure and speed as you go along. She’ll make it clear when you’ve found the ideal tempo and if not, then just ask her if it feels good. When you know you’ve got the right amount of speed and pressure then keep at it and don’t stop until she orgasms!

Extra Tips
  • Pay attention to her body and her voice so you know when what you’re doing feels right. It can be a little hard to know if she’s loving it if she’s one of those shy girls who isn’t too comfortable making noise in bed, in which case you need to ask. A simple “You like that baby?” or “how does that feel?” should suffice.
  • Keep the lube handy since some brands tend to dry up quickly and become a little sticky. You want stuff to be slick and smooth but not so lubed that she can’t feel your fingers!
  • Try to use your other free hand on the rest of her body while you’re working your magic down below.
  • Be patient!! Sensual stroking is about getting her off and that can take some time, so don’t start something that you’re not willing to finish!

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