Erogenous Spots/Zones of the Female
Top 10 Female Erogenous Zones
All men want to be the master of their partner’s pleasure, we know this to be true. Unfortunately there’s no “One Size Fits All” formula for how to please each individual woman, and you can’t always count on your new sex partner to be able to communicate her desires early on. So what’s an eager-to-please man to do if he wants a surefire way to rock any partner’s world?
No matter who you’re with or what they’re into, there’s one ingredient that is sure to set you apart from all other lovers: Variety AKA the spice of your sex life.
It doesn’t matter how hot your go-to moves are. If you’re doing the same things in bed time after time, things are bound to become a little stale. That’s why you need to mix things up and surprise your partner with more adventurous tricks and new paths to pleasure. If you can not only discover her hot spots, but also introduce her to hotter ones she didn’t know she had, you can almost guarantee a return customer, or at the very least, a standing O.
Lucky for you, these hotbeds for erotic activity (also known as erogenous zones) are located all across the female body and are surprisingly easy to pleasure. So turn on some sensual music, light a few aromatherapy candles, and settle in — It’s time to go exploring!
From her head all the way to her toes, here are 10 of the top erogenous zones to turn her on:
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a scalp massage and felt those warm fuzzy tingles from head to toe? That’s because the skin on the top of your head is loaded with nerves that are extremely sensitive to the touch. Stimulating the scalp in the right way releases a flood of feel-good hormones like serotonin and oxytocin. It also increases blood flow, not just to her brain (the largest sex organ, remember?) but all over her body.
Next time you and your partner are kissing or cuddling, open your fingers wide and run them slowly through her hair, lightly stroking her scalp with your fingertips. Start behind her ears, at the base of the head, and circulate to the front, kind of like you’re lathering shampoo into your hair. Scalp massages are both soothing and sensual: They help release tension, and get her in the mood for other stimulating activities.
Although ears contain a ton of tiny nerve endings that send pleasurable responses to the brain, they receive very little attention in their day to day; this makes them an even hotter spot to stimulate during sexy time. Still, not everyone is comfortable with full tongue-to-ear penetration so the trick is to start off start off slowly and work your way up to more full ear contact.
Start by lightly tracing the C-shaped outline of your partner’s ear with your fingertips or with your tongue. Gently kiss her earlobe or hold it lightly in your mouth and massage it with your lips. If she seems okay with this, you can take it as a green light to start to nibble or suck on the lobe. Once you become more comfortable with the landscape, try combining all of these moves together and every once and while, work your tongue into the center of her ear for a surprising but pleasurable sensation.
Another great way to stimulate this spot is with sound! Never underestimate the power of a low moan or a sultry whisper sent directly (but softly) into her ear canal to drive her mad with desire.
Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a ton of nerve endings (100 times more than our fingertips) that are sensitive to even the slightest touch. Stimulating them releases floods of feel-good hormones to our brains that affect our emotions, as well as our lady parts. That’s why kissing is such an essential act for couples. It enhances intimacy and helps partners connect, plus it just feels good.
Lips can be best stimulated through kissing, obviously, but don’t be afraid to add a little variety to the way you’re pleasuring them! Your mouth should not be pressed up against hers like a dead fish. Use your lips, tongue and teeth to lick, nibble and caress her top and bottom lips. Every once in awhile, take a break from kissing to gently trace the outline of her lips with your thumb as you gaze into her eyes and catch your breath, before leaning in for more.
The neck is an area that is most sensitive to LIGHT sensations, and it’s also one of the sexiest places to touch, lick and kiss. Because the skin in this area is thin, it does not take a lot to make it feel good. Even the feeling of gentle breath on the nape of the neck can send shivers down a woman’s spine.
This is a great erogenous zone to start stimulating, even before your partner is fully aroused. Try sweeping her hair up and planting gentle, warm kisses along the side of her neck, close to the place you would touch to check a pulse. The skin here is especially thin, meaning every sensation will be magnified. Then you can kiss your way up to her earlobe for a gentle nibble or two before going in for the full lip lock.
Although men have been paying very special attention to nipple for years, it’s remarkable how few men know how to pleasure them to their full potential. Research shows that nipple stimulation is processed in the same region of the brain as touch to the clitoris and vagina, making it a key part of the holy trinity of female pleasure.
While gently massaging your partner’s breast with one hand, use your fingers or tongue to lightly trace the area around the areola, before placing your open mouth on her nipple. Try using your lips to softly hold the nipple in your mouth and run your tongue back and forth over it; use your lips and tongue to massage the area, paying attention to her bodily cues to determine what she likes best.
Besides licking and sucking, you can also use a clitoral vibrator (Like theWe-Vibe Touch) on a low setting to lightly massage her nipples, as they are very sensitive to vibrations.
Her Lower Back
Whether it’s at the end of a long day, or just another Tuesday, no woman can resist the power of a sensual back massage. The back is riddled with muscles and nerves that respond positively to touch, and the small of the back is especially sensitive.
Start off by gently rubbing and caressing her back, focusing most of your attention to the sacrum, which is the area of her lower back just above the tailbone that is rich with nerve endings. Then you can start massaging the area right above her buttocks, using your thumbs to knead either side of (but not directly over) her spine. This maneuver becomes especially hot with the addition of some luxurious massage oil, like the moisturizing oil from Emily & Tony aromatherapy massage candles.
This move will not only help to relax your partner, but also increase blood flow to her pelvic region and increase its sensitivity. Perfect for what comes next!
Many women hold a lot of insecurities about their midsection, but the fact is that the abdomen is an extremely erotic area that should not be ignored. A woman’s abdominal muscles are connected to her vagina, which is why some women can even orgasm simply from doing core exercises. When these muscles are lightly stimulated during foreplay, it causes them to contract in anticipation, which actually boosts arousal. Plus, that stretch of skin between the breasts and pubic mound is loaded with nerve endings, and it’s proximity to the genitals makes it that more more sensitive to the touch.
With your partner straddling you, start slowly stroking your fingers up and down her stomach or across her lower abdomen (between her bellybutton and pubic mound) which will stimulate blood flow to her nether regions. Allow your strokes to get lower and lower, closer to her nether regions, then bring them back up. The anticipation will build arousal until she is begging you for more direct stimulation.
The clitoris is the only part of the human body that’s sole purpose is to provide pleasure. With 8,000 nerve endings packed in such a small little space, you’ve gotta respect that ratio!
Every clitoris is a little different in terms of sensitivity; even light pressure from fingertips may be too much for some ladies, while others can take a lot more stimulation. Start off light: Use two fingertips to gently massage the clitoris. Try using a circular motion, or switch it up with some up and down movements as well. Experiment with different speeds and pressure to see what works best for the recipient. Remember, this is not a rub n’ tug kind of experience, so be gentle. And a little lubrication certainly doesn’t hurt.
You can also stimulate the clitoris with your mouth, or even bring a vibrator into the mix! The egg-shaped Mimi by Je Joue is the perfect sex toy for clitoral stimulation.
Her Inner Thighs
As anyone on the receiving end of a tickle fight will tell you, the inner thighs are ridiculously sensitive to all forms of touch. Along with the backs of her knees, the inner thighs are loaded with nerve endings and are often considered to be among the most sensitive parts of the body, so gentle touches and licks are most preferred.
Next time you’re planning on going down on your partner, take a detour and show a little love to her inner thighs. Use gentle finger strokes and light licks to stimulate the skin there, as well as soft breaths against the slightly moist spots where your tongue has just been. You can even massage her thighs while your perform oral on her, which will stimulate the blood-flow to her genitals, making everything your mouth is doing feel that much better.
You don’t have to have a fetish to be able to show your partner’s feet a little love. Many are surprised to find that a foot stimulation can actually be a real turn on! This is because there are pressure points in your feet that are believed to trigger sexual arousal, or at the very least, help her de-stress after a hard day.
Plop your partner’s feet into your lap and treat her (hopefully clean) tootsies to a sensual rub down. Start by massaging the pads of her feet, using your thumbs to rub upward in a circular motion. Repeat this kneading motion as you move slowly down the length of her foot, then move back up again all the way to the toes. Remember, this is not a strength competition, so ask her what type of pressure she prefers.
Touch My Body: The Most Sensual Female Body Parts, Based On Science
Most men admit to remaining curious as to what turns a woman on and what specific body parts require the most attention. It is not until several rounds of trial-and-error that men will begin to become aware of what turns their partner on in between the sheets. They then stick to the usual repertoire in the boudoir. Now, Canadian scientists have found a way to eliminate the process altogether by identifying the most erogenous female body parts, based on touch, pressure, and vibration. The recent study is published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
To investigate, the team of Canadian researchers at the University of Montreal recruited 30 women between the ages of 18 and 35. Using light touch, pressure, and vibration, they studied each woman's clitoris, labia minora, vaginal and anal margins, the lateral breast, areola, and nipple. They were then compared to neutral areas on the body, such as the neck, forearm, and abdomen.
The women were asked to lay under a bed sheet while they stimulated various outer parts of the female body with scientific instruments. The researchers asked the participants to rank their sensitivity to light touch, pressure, and vibration stimulated by the instruments in each area. Stimulation was applied for 1.5 seconds. Then, the researchers waited for five seconds before they asked the women if they felt it.
The unsurprising findings confirmed our common knowledge and the scientists’ knowledge about the erogenous zones in the female anatomy. When it came to light touch, the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin were ranked the most sensitive area, and the areola was reported the least sensitive. The clitoris and nipple were the most sensitive when it came to pleasure, whereas the lateral breast and abdomen were the least. Lastly, the clitoris and nipple were found to be the most sensitive to vibration. The clitoris, expectedly, was the most sensitive to vibration compared to all the body parts.
Overall, the female genitals were found to be more sensitive to pressure and vibration compared to touch, which the scientists found “interesting” since people enjoy sex and sex toys, according to Time magazine. The Canadian scientists hope their findings will lead to more satisfying sexual experiences for women since their most erogenous zones are now scientifically proven. They also suggest this can provide useful information for doctors who perform breast augmentation and gender reassignment surgery.
Feet were once thought to have a sensual connection to the genitals due to the concentration of nerve endings in the sole and digits of the foot. However, in a 2013 study, neuroscientists have found it to be the least appealing part of the male and female anatomy when it comes to studying the link between sex and the brain.
So men, stop the toe sucking and licking, and use what scientists have confirmed. They have better equipped you to please your woman.
By now, you (ought to) know how to arouse a woman in the touch-her-lady-parts kind of ways. But even if you’re feeling confident with those skills, it’s time to dig a little deeper. Truth is, if you’re overlooking the other 95% of her body—or sticking with your usual repertoire—you’re missing out on the chance to make sex more electric for both of you. “Many guys make the mistake of touching what worked for an ex-girlfriend, but the same technique doesn’t work for every woman,” says Amy Jo Goddard, MA, a sexual empowerment coach in Napa, California.
To help you shed the same old moves, we asked top sex experts to share the secretly sensuous parts of a woman’s body—and then got them to tell us how you can play them like a master pianist.
1. The Brain
Why it’s hot: Have you ever heard someone say that the mind is a woman’s biggest sex organ? Believe it. “Sex can easily become boring if there is no psychology to it,” says Goddard. “Appealing to her mind with the right sex talk will entice and excite her.”
How to activate it: It’s essential to comprehend that there’s a range of sexy talk, from romantic to dirty—to downright kinky. “The same kind doesn’t turn every woman on, so find out what type of language and role playing works best for her,” says Goddard. Maybe she’ll want you to play the prince; maybe she likes it better if you’re more of a toad. It pays to find out.
2. Her Scalp
Why it’s hot: A head massage helps release oxytocin, a stress hormone that provides a sense of calm while enhancing sexual pleasure, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., sexual health guru and author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover.
How to activate it: Scratch the scalp, using long sweeping strokes with your nails or fingertips. Move toward the base of the head where it meets the neck, kneading the area with firm upward presses with your thumbs. Then work your way to the part of the scalp behind the ears, using the same repeated upward, forward motion. “She’ll love that the action is soothing, sensual, pampering, and seductive,” says Fulbright.
3. Her Ears
Why it’s hot: It’s not just talking into them that could turn a woman on. Caressing her ears can be sexually stimulating, since they have more than 120 acupressure points, says Fulbright. “Chinese energy specialists believe that touching this area can send sexual energy throughout the body.”
How to activate them: Ears can be very sensitive, so don’t grope them like a gorilla. “Press the lobes between your lips, or massage them gently with your fingertips,” says Fulbright.
4. Her Nose
Why it’s hot: The olfactory sense is a key player in the biology of arousal, since intrinsically, people believe you are as you smell. “If you smell bad, women aren’t going to be turned on by you,” says neurologist Alan Hirsch, MD, director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago.
How to activate it: Beyond you not stinking up the room, there’s scientific research to suggest that certain odors arouse women more than others. Hirsch says a combination of licorice and cucumber is the number one scent to turn a woman on. And if that’s not easy to conger up, experiment with essential oils. “Patchouli and ginger increase sexual energy, and ylang ylang is said to increase sexual interest,” says Fulbright.
5. Her Mouth
Why it’s hot: “The novelty of a first kiss drives up dopamine in the brain, and kissing a long-term partner releases oxytocin,” both of which are feel-good, put-you-in-the-mood brain chemicals, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a love and sex researcher at Rutgers University and chief scientific advisor for Match.com.
How to activate it: Even if you prefer sloppy kisses (Fisher says men like them because saliva has traces of testosterone in it), she warns that most ladies aren’t so into it. Keep your lips firm-but-soft, and let the lady take the lead. She’ll probably kiss you the way she wants to be kissed back, which will definitely turn her on.
6. Her Neck
Why it’s hot: According to Goddard, nearly everyone responds to the sternocleidomastoid muscle (let’s call it the SCM), which connects the base of the skull under the ear to the sternum. “It’s highly sensitive to kissing, licking, nibbling and biting,” she says.
How to activate it: “My favorite technique, which is an absolute slam dunk every time, is to bite her neck, if you can learn to do it skillfully,” says Goddard. “Bite into it and release, repeating down the length of the muscle. Find the balance of biting down and releasing, and she will be putty in your hands.”
7. Her Breasts
Why it’s hot: Reality check, guys: You may be more into playing with her boobs than she enjoys having you do it. You definitely shouldn’t concentrate all your energy on her twins, but “some women have orgasms just by having them touched the right way,” says Goddard.
How to activate them: Resist every impulse to grope like a teenage boy. “Some women’s breasts are really sensitive, so light caresses or licking can go a long way,” says Goddard. “Other women’s breasts aren’t so sensitive, so you have to figure out what works for the woman you’re with.”
8. Her Skin
Why it’s hot: “Skin is a powerful mechanism of arousal,” says Fisher. A huge part of the brain is devoted to touch, she says, but less is more—once again. “Women will get hot and bothered by even the slightest caress.”
How to activate it: Here’s Goddard’s tip: Let her feel your breath against her skin without touching it. When she’s not expecting it, lightly touch her skin—with a fingernail, a long, slow stroke with one finger, or your tongue—down her belly, her thigh, her back, or her ass. Some women may respond to grabbing, kneading, or smacking too, but make sure you know she’s into that before you try it out.
9. Her Clitoris
Why it’s hot: You really should know this already, but just in case: The clitoris is the female equivalent of a penis, and it gets hard—and releases—when it’s handled properly.
How to activate it: Time to take a tip from another kind of pro: “The only difference between a gigolo and a regular guy is that the gigolo takes instructions,” says Fisher. “Get from her what she wants, and then give it to her. And don’t be too rough or too fast. Women like things slow and wet.”
10. Her Feet
Why it’s hot: “An enormous part of the sensory nerves in the brain are devoted to the skin on your feet, but many people don’t focus on them,” says Fisher. “If a man wants to put a nice clean foot in his mouth, it will stimulate a very strong physiological response throughout a woman’s body, because part of the sensory cortex is stimulated.”
How to activate them: If you want to work your way up to toe sucking, start by gently pinching her toes. This will relax her and build sexual anticipation. When you’re ready for the big time, you’ll get a great payoff: “Sucking her toes can be as pleasurable to her as oral sex,” says Laurie Watson, certified sex therapist and instructor at Duke University and the University of North Carolina Chapel Hill medical schools.
There's no quicker way to get a guy's attention than to utter one of two words: sports or sex. But in order to get your maximum attention, we're shouting them together. Now that your focus is riveted to the page, here's the scoop:
When most women are asked what's missing from their sex lives, they complain that their men generally head straight for the touchdown, ignoring the many intervening yard markers on the female body that allow a woman to play the game of sex full-tilt. Fact is, sex is like any sport: If you want to be a big-contract star, you've gotta play the whole game. So as a special service to you, we've created a guide to 10 can't-miss female erogenous zones—but instead of all the gooey romance-novel terms or translations from ancient Indian religious texts that make up most sex manuals, we're using the language of sport.
Going Neck and Neck
Come up behind her, push her hair away from the back of her neck, and deliver soft, warm kisses. If you see goose bumps or hear moaning, continue, then repeat on the other side.
Note: Do this only if you are sure it will be welcomed, or you may end up facing a Tae Bo-trained back kick to your vitals.
Throwing an Elbow
Kiss her on the delicate inside curve of her elbow—and watch her shiver with delight. This is a good first move, because it's much more intimate than it appears.
Winning By a Hair
Run your fingers through her hair, gently massaging her scalp. This creates a great sensation for her, causing her body to release the relaxing hormones called endorphins.
Nibbling Around the Edges
Nibble and gently suck on her earlobe, then lick the center of her ear. Do this briefly, then gauge her reaction—some women love it, but to others it's as annoying as a wet willie. If she reaches for a paper towel, you'll have your answer. But if you're incredibly lucky, doing this alone with a certain facility can bring some women to orgasm—a phenomenon called the auricologenital reflex, caused by stimulating a nerve inside the ear canal.
The way to many a woman's heart is through her feet. Apply some pressure on the sole and heel (more if it tickles, less if it hurts), and gently stroke the toes and ankle. Don't neglect that hollow area on the sides of her ankle, between the ankle bone and the Achilles tendon; this is an acupressure point said to help restore sexual energy.
In the middle of your next makeout session, gently suck on her upper lip and allow your lower lip to caress her frenulum, that little bit of center tissue that connects the upper lip and the gums. This is a pressure point that goes straight to her private parts; if it works, you'll see (and feel) a reaction immediately.
Backfield in Motion
Apply a gentle touch—just barely grazing the skin—to the sacrum, the area of her lower back just above the tailbone. As the skin warms, apply increasing pressure to either side of (but not directly on) her spine. If she's comfortable with it, move lower to massage the tops of her buttocks. She's likely to find this maneuver extremely relaxing, not to mention stimulating.
If the two of you are extremely well-acquainted (and she's partially unclothed), you can move on to this final step: stroking her entire body down the side, from her armpits to her legs, then back up again. Do it right, and she'll squirm with pleasure...and from there it's just a short step to second base, third base and sliding into home.
7 Forgotten Female Erogenous Zones
Pay attention to these body parts to increase your pleasure—and his
You already know about the usual suspects, but if you're looking to amp things up in the bedroom tonight, ask your husband to focus on some parts of your body that you both may have forgotten about.
1. The Mons
The what? You may be unfamiliar with this word, but it's time to get acquainted, says Michael Krychman, MD, CM, medical director of Sexual Medicine and the executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, California. "The mons, or area above the genitals where the pubic hair grows, can also be interesting when incorporated into the sexual repertoire," he explains. "Caressing the hair area or gentle touch to this area can also be exciting and pleasurable." To make it even more enjoyable, try Zestra, a botanical oil designed to increase arousal and sensitivity. Feeling shy or uncomfortable about the most private places of your body, the mons or otherwise? Learning to embrace, and even love, your body for what it is can go a long way in the pleasure department, say experts. In fact, an Indiana University study published in a recent issue of the International Journal of Sexual Health found that women who feel more positively about their genitals have better and more frequent orgasms.
2. Behind the Knees
One of the most-ignored sexual hot spots in the female body? Hint: It's also a place you might feel really ticklish. According to Dr. Krychman, the skin behind the knees is an area you might ask your husband to focus on, either by kissing or gently massaging with an oil or lotion. "Some women find this area especially exciting and pleasurable when showered with gentle touch or caresses," he says. And don't forget the tops of the knees, too, adds Ava Cadell, a sex educator and founder of Loveology University in Los Angeles. "The knees are a major erogenous zone—all around the kneecap. This is one place where a little nibbling is often welcome too."
3. The Abs
While it might sound like a ticklish scenario, letting your partner stroke or even massage your belly can be an erotic experience for some women, says Amy Levine, a New York City–based sex coach, certified sexuality educator and founder ofSexEdSolutions.com. In fact, she adds, in some rare cases, women have been able to reach orgasm simply by doing certain abdominal exercises. "It's unlikely that the majority of us will be able to experience the same effect," she says, "but incorporating some ab work in the bedroom could help get you in the mood. Not to mention, the thought of his moving farther south can be downright exciting, likely causing your vaginal muscles to contract from the anticipation, boosting your arousal and possibly leading to climax without direct genital contact."
4. The Lips
Want to have better sex tonight? Try this exercise: Spend at least five minutes kissing before intercourse. "Lips remain one of the most erotic areas of a woman's body," Dr. Krychman says. Here's how to rev things up: "Vary the strength and intensity of kisses," he suggests. "Even if you gently caress the lips with a finger—you may find this exhilarating."
5. The Scalp
You love it when your hair stylist gives your head a massage while she's shampooing, right? Well, get your husband in on the action, too. Here's why: Your scalp is covered with nerve endings that make it super-sensitive to the touch, explains Cadell. She, and other experts, say that a good scalp rub may not only release tension but also may increase blood flow—flooding your body with the feel-good hormones dopamine and serotonin.
6. The Feet
"What can be a relaxing and soothing ritual after a long day can also be a turn-on for you both," says Levine. "Some men find women's feet to be exciting (think: foot fetish) and with the right mindset, you can too." In fact, the ancient practice of reflexology indicates that certain pressure points in your feet can trigger sexual arousal. Whether it works or not is yet to be determined, but many women do find that a foot massage given by the man they love can spark arousal. Why not see for yourself? If your hubby isn't sure about where to rub, help him out by getting a pair of Sexy Love Sox, which designate which areas on the foot represent "the body's erogenous zones."
7. The Neck
"The neck is a very sensual part of our bodies," says Levine. "There is nothing like a man you're attracted to standing behind you, massaging your shoulders and seductively making a trail of soft kisses from the hairline to the base of the neck." So, here's your homework assignment, ladies: Ask your husband to show you a little neck love! "Feeling the sensations of his soft lips and imagining where those lips are traveling can really get our juices flowing," she adds.
The Most Erogenous Parts of the Female Body, Ranked By Science
Scientists have determined which female body parts are most sensitive
Here’s a study that will make you blush.
Canadian scientists tested the sensitivities of several sexual areas on the female body, including the parts in the perineum area–the area between the anus and vulva–as well as the side boob and nipple. They compared these to neutral areas on the body, like the neck, forearm, abdomen.
Exactly how did they go about this? The researchers used light touch, pressure, and yes, vibration to assess how sensitive these body parts were. They had 3o healthy women between the ages of 18 and 35 get undressed and lie on a table covered in a bed sheet. They then used scientific instruments to apply the various forms of touch to the women’s clitoris, labia minora, vaginal margin, anal margin, lateral breast (side boob), areola (the small ring of skin surrounding the nipple), nipple, neck and forearm.
The researchers applied stimulation for 1.5 seconds, then waited for five seconds before asking the women if they felt it.
Here’s what they found.
For light touch, the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin are the most sensitive areas, and the areola is the least sensitive. When it comes to pressure, the clitoris and nipple are the most sensitive, and the side boob and abdomen are the least. Lastly, when it comes to vibration, the clitoris and nipple are most sensitive. The clitoris was the most sensitive to vibration out of all the body parts.
Overall, the researchers found that the genitals are more sensitive to pressure and vibration compared to light touch, which they found “interesting” because people enjoy sex and sex toys. (Duh).
In all seriousness, the researchers say that understanding these sensitives is useful knowledge for breast augmentation and gender reassignment surgery. But if you want this information for other reasons, by all means bookmark this page.