Spots of Stimulation in a Female
Her Hot Spots: Erogenous Zones for Women
Okay gentlemen, this one is for you, and you all had better listen up. Today, we’re teaching about touching, in hopes that you’ll be able to drive her wild.
Why? Because the more time, effort and expertise you put in to foreplay, the more likely she is to climax during the main event, which will not only be awesome for her, but will likely ensure that you’ll be back in this sexual situation sometime again in the very near future.
Fine ladies – you can listen too. But no giggling; this stuff is serious business.
Below, we’re going to touch on some important points (pun TOTALLY intended), so take notes or simply copy and paste it, print it out, and tape it to your wall – here goes.
Her Hot Spots
A woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone, the clitoris is home to more than 8,000 nerve endings and many women climax primarily from clitoral stimulation. For those still exploring, you’ll find the clitoris at the top of her vulva, where her inner labia joins together at their upper ends – you’ll find it there wearing a hood, the sneaky little devil.
So what do you do with it? Your best bet for pleasuring her clitoris is through oral sex, in which case some gentle tongue caresses on and around this hot spot will have her on her way to Orgasm City in no time. Good move tip; try soft licks with your tongue directly on her clitoris while rubbing circles around it with the tip of your thumb, but as always when it comes to this most sensitive of spots, defer to what she wants and listen to her body language to get an idea if what you’re doing is right.
The who spot? The U-spot is the area of erectile tissue located above and on either side of her urethra, making it shaped like an upside-down U, but the Horseshoe-Spot just doesn’t have the same ring to it as U-Spot does, as it turns out.
So what do you do with it? With a well-lubricated finger, rub the area vertically or horizontally. When she’s ready for lovemaking, rub the tip of your penis around this spot before finally moving on to penetration to drive her extra wild.
Perhaps the most famous of her spots, the G-spot (which sounds better than Grafenberg spot) is that super-elusive Holy Grail of female pleasure. While some debate whether or not it even exists, we’re very content to busy ourselves with the search, which is where the fun is.
You’ll find the G-spot located 5 to 7 centimeters (2 to 3 inches) inside the vagina on the anterior – frontal – wall from the vaginal opening. You’ll notice that this area feels slightly different from the rest of the vagina; a little bumpier. You’ll certainly know it when you find it.
So what do you do with it? There are a number of great sexual positions for G-spot pleasure, but for the most effective G-spot massage your best bet is with your own hands. Place your index and middle finger in her vagina with the tips on that special spot, and with those fingers together or spread apart to make a peace sign, start curling your fingers in a ‘come hither’ motion – but for the love of God, cut your nails first! Hands getting tired? Sometimes all you need is help from the perfectly designed G-spot massager.
Otherwise known as the ‘female degenerated prostate’ or the Anterior Fomix Erogenous Zone (which means the name A-spot is A-okay with us), the A-spot is an area of sensitive tissue that plays a big part in female sexual lubrication and, when stimulated just right, is what will cause a woman to ‘squirt’.
Located at the innermost part of the vagina, the A-spot resides between her cervix and her bladder. Your best bet of stimulating this spot with consistent stimulation is likelywith a sex toy designed for G-spot massage, however if any guys want to reach the A-spot during sex, you’ll have to try for some extra deep penetration; have her lie on her back with her knees pulled up to her breasts as you place your hands under her knees to spread her legs apart as you enter and begin thrusting for the deepest reach.
So did you get all that? We certainly hope so, because with these four spots drilled in to your brain, you’re already on your way to being a true pleasure pro!
German costume analysts of the 1920s proposed a law of Shifting Erogenous Zones. Young women will always want to display a particular part of their bodies, but this display will keep moving from one region of the body to another. As one bit covers up, another becomes exposed. There are two reasons for this. The first is novelty – each new exposure is exciting because it has not been seen recently – familiarity has not yet bred contempt. The second is modesty – if more than one body zone is exposed at the same time, the impact is too vulgar. So, to keep the exposure fresh, but not too exaggerated, the erogenous zone keeps on shifting from one area of the body to another, as fashions change.
The Clitoris, A-Spot, G-Spot and U-Spot
In addition to the vaginal passage and its surrounding labia, the female genitals also boast four sexual ‘Hot Spots.’ These are small zones of heightened erotic sensitivity, the stimulation of which during the mating act helps to bring the female nearer to an orgasmic condition. They are: the Clitoris, the U-spot, the G-spot, and the A-spot. The first two are outside the vagina, the second two inside it:
The Clitoris. This is the best known of the female genital hot spots, located at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia join at their upper ends. The visible part is the small, nipple-sized, female equivalent of the tip of the male penis, and is partially covered by a protective hood. Essentially it is a bundle of 8000 nerve fibres, making it the most sensitive spot on the entire female body. It is purely sexual in function and becomes enlarged (longer, more swollen, more erect) and even more sensitive during copulation. During foreplay it is often stimulated directly by touch, and many women who do not easily reach orgasm purely from vaginal stimulation find it easier to climax from oral, digital, or mechanical stimulation of the clitoris.
An Australian surgeon recently reported that the clitoris is larger than previously thought, much of it being hidden beneath the surface. The part that is visible is simply its tip, the rest of its length – its shaft – lying beneath the surface and extending down to surround the vaginal opening. This means that, during pelvic thrusting, its concealed part will be massaged vigorously by the movements of the inserted penis. There will therefore always be some degree of clitoral stimulation, even when the tip is not touched directly. The clitoral shaft is, however, less sensitive than the exposed tip, so that direct contact with the tip will always have a greater impact on female arousal. Some women claim that, by employing a rhythmic, downward roll of the pelvis, they can create a direct friction on the clitoris tip while the male is making pelvic thrusts, and can in this way magnify their arousal, but this requires a more dominant role for the female, which is not always accepted by the male.
The U-Spot. This is a small patch of sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on either side of the urethral opening. It is absent just below the urethra, in the small area between the urethra and the vagina. Less well known than the clitoris, its erotic potential was only recently investigated by American clinical research workers. They found that if this region was gently caressed, with the finger, the tongue, or the tip of the penis, there was an unexpectedly powerful erotic response.
While on the subject of the female urethra, it is important to mention ‘female ejaculation.’ In the male, the urethral tube delivers both urine and seminal fluid containing sperm. In the female it is usually believed that it delivers only urine, but this is not the case. When there is an unusually powerful orgasm, some females may emit a liquid from their urethral openings that is not urine. There are specialized glands surrounding the urethral tube, called Skene’s glands, or para-urethral glands, similar to the male’s prostate, and under extreme stimulation they produce an alkaline liquid that is chemically similar to male seminal fluid. Women who experience ejaculation (which ranges in quantity from a few drops to a few tablespoonfuls), sometimes imagine that the extreme muscular exertions of their climactic moments have forced them into involuntary urination, but this is simply because they do not understand their own physiology. Nor, incidentally, did some medical authorities, who insisted that ejaculating women were suffering from ‘urinary stress incontinence’ and suggested operations to cure it. (One man recently sued for divorce because he believed that his wife was urinating on him, such is the ignorance of female genital activity.)
It is not clear what the value of this female ejaculation can be, as its occurrence is clearly a little late to act as an aid to lubrication. Vaginal lubrication is, in fact, carried out by the walls of the vagina themselves, which rapidly become covered in a liquid film when female sexual arousal first begins.
The G-Spot, or Grafenberg Spot. This is a small, highly sensitive area located 5-8 cm (2-3 inches) inside the vagina, on the front or upper wall. Named after its discoverer, a German gynaecologist called Ernst Grafenberg, it is sometimes romantically referred to as the Goddess Spot. Research into the nature of the female orgasm, carried out in the 1940s, led to the discovery that the female’s urethral tube, that lies on top of the vagina, is surrounded by erectile tissue similar to that found in the male penis. When the female becomes sexually aroused, this tissue starts to swell. In the G-spot zone this expansion rebults in a small patch of the vaginal wall protruding into the vaginal canal. It is this raised patch that is, according to Grafenberg, ‘a primary erotic zone, perhaps more important than the clitoris.’ He explains that its significance was lost when the ‘missionary position’ became a dominant feature of human sexual behaviour. Other sexual positions are far more efficient at stimulating this erogenous zone and therefore at achieving vaginal orgasms.
It should be pointed out that the term ‘G-spot’ was not used by Grafenberg himself. As mentioned above, he called it ‘an erotic zone,’ which is a much better description of it. Unfortunately, the modern use of ‘G-spot’ as a popular term has led to some misunderstanding. Some women have been led to believe, optimistically. that there is a ‘sex button’ that can be pressed like a starter button, at any time, to cause an erotic explosion. Disappointed, they then come to the conclusion that the whole concept of a ‘G-spot’ is false and that it does not exist. The truth, as already explained, is that the G-spot is a sexually sensitive patch of vaginal wall that protrudes slightly only when the glands surrounding the urethral tube have become swollen. Several leading gynaecologists denied its existence when it was first discussed at their conferences, and a major controversy arose, but later, when it was specially demonstrated for their benefit, they changed their minds. Sexual politics also entered the debate, when certain anti-male campaigners rejected out of hand the idea that vaginal orgasm could be possible. For them clitoral orgasm was politically correct and no other would do. How they have reacted to the recent marketing of ‘G-spotter’ attachments for vibrators is not recorded.
Astonishingly, there have been recent reports that some women have been undergoing ‘G-spot enhancement.’ This involves injecting collagen into the G-spot zone to enlarge it. According to one source, ‘One of the latest procedures to catch on is G-spot injection. Similar substances to those injected into the lips to plump them up can now be injected into your G-spot. The idea is that this will increase its sensitivity and so give you better orgasms.’ This sounds more like an urban myth than a surgical reality, but where female sexual improvements are concerned, almost anything is possible.
The A-Spot, AFE-zone or Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone. Also referred to as theEpicentre, this is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder, described technically as the ‘female degenerated prostate.’ (In other words, it is the female equivalent of the male prostate, just as the clitoris is the female equivalent of the male penis.) Direct stimulation of this spot can produce violent orgasmic contractions. Unlike the clitoris, it is not supposed to suffer from post-orgasmic over-sensitivity.
Its existence was reported by a Malaysian physician in Kuala Lumpur as recently as the 1990s. There has been some mis-reporting about it, and its precise position has been incorrectly described by several writers. Its true location is just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. The cervix of the uterus is the narrow part that protrudes slightly into the vagina, leaving a circular recess around itself. The front part of this recess is called the anterior fornix. Pressure on it produces rapid lubrication of the vagina, even in women who are not normally sexually responsive. It is now possible to buy a special AFE vibrator – long thin and upward curved at its end, to probe this zone.
Students of female sexual physiology claim (perhaps over-enthusiastically) that if these four erotic centres are stimulated in rotation, one after the other, it is possible for a woman to enjoy many orgasms in a single night. It is pointed out, however, that it takes an extremely experienced and sensitive lover to achieve this.
It has been claimed that two out of every three women fail to reach regular orgasms from simple penetrative sex. As mentioned above, most of them find that only digital or oral stimulation of the clitoris can be guaranteed to bring them to climax. This must mean that, for them, the two ‘hot spots’ inside the vagina are not living up to their name. The reason for this, it seems, is monotony in sexual positioning. A group of 27 couples were asked to vary their sexual positions experimentally, employing postures that would allow greater stimulation of the two vaginal ‘hot spots,’ and it was found that three-quarters of the females involved were then able to achieve regular vaginal orgasms.
A is for A-Spot — Can You Find It?
Most of you have probably heard of the G-Spot, but the A-Spot is another exciting zone that can produce intense sexual pleasure as well as rapid lubrication and contractions in some women. Also known as the AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) zone, this area of sensitivity is located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper (anterior) wall where it begins to curve upwards.
According to Malaysian researcher, Dr. Chua Chee Ann, who is credited with “discovering” the A-Spot, this sensitive area is located beyond the G-Spot just above the cervix. (The cervix is the narrow lower part of the uterus that protrudes into the vagina appearing as a circular or tube-like structure.) Check out the super-awesome Beautiful Cervix Project to learn more about what the cervix looks like.
How to find and stimulate the A-Spot: Dr. Chua’s research suggests that stimulation of the A-Spot can result in increased lubrication in women who experience vaginal dryness. He suggests inserting a clean, lubricated finger (trim those nails first!) into the vagina along the upper wall and reaching to the deepest point. While you’re in there, you can also move your fingers around to locate your cervix, which may feel round, rubbery and a bit firmer than the rest of the vagina.
Once you reach the deepest point of the vagina just above the cervix, Dr. Chua advises clients to continue stroking and applying pressure on this spongy area until you begin to lubricate. Then move your finger in an in-and-out motion along the upper wall including the G-Spot according to what feels good for you. Some women experience greater lubrication and more consistent arousal after stimulating this area for 5-10 minutes each day for at least a week. Though Dr. Chua claims that stimulation of the A-Spot can result in instant sexual arousal despite subjective feelings (stress, boredom, relationship troubles, etc.), I caution clients to use physical techniques like this one in conjunction with activities that promote relaxation, intimacy and improved communication. No physical technique alone can “solve” relationship issues or replace the power of honest, open communication.
If you don’t find the A-Spot on your first try or if you do not experience pleasure or arousal, don’t worry – there are plenty of other hot spots on the wondrous female body and you still get an A for effort. (Sorry! I couldn’t resist that one.) As always, bear in mind that every woman is different and just because the A-spot is a hot zone for some women, this does not guarantee that all women will enjoy direct stimulation. In fact, some women find pressure on or around the cervix uncomfortable, so communication is of utmost importance when experimenting with partnered sex play. I advise clients to explore their bodies on their own before involving a partner, as becoming master of your own domain can lead to better sexual experiences when you do decide to partner up.
Though the A-Spot is located at the back of the vagina, a long penis is not necessary to stimulate this area, as the average vaginal canal is quite short and even an index finger can be used to reach the AFE zone. While vaginal size varies greatly from woman to woman, a recent study found that the average length of the vagina is less than 3 inches. Couples can also play with different positions to access this responsive area, but should bear in mind that most women do not orgasm consistently from penetration or intercourse alone. Stay tuned for more information on how different sex positions can create diverse sensations and stimulate various areas of the genital region in an upcoming post and feel free to reread previous posts on how to touch a woman for a quickie refresher.
HOW TO STIMULATE ALL HER HOT SPOTS
Women have four hot spots. Did you know this? I didn’t. Up until a week ago, I thought there were only three: The clitoris, the G-Spot, and the U-Spot. Well, lo and behold, we ladies also have an A-Spot. I’d like to say I discovered this hot spot through vigorous sexual activity, but sadly, it was actually through research, while I was reading about the other three. So, without further delay, here is a description of what each hot spot is, where it is located and how it can be stimulated through foreplay, sex and toys.
This is the most sensitive spot on the female body. It’s located at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia join at their upper ends. The visible part is the tiny, nipple-sized, female equivalent of the tip of the penis, and is partially covered by a hood. When aroused, it becomes swollen and erect. Part of the clit is hidden beneath the surface and extends down to the vaginal opening. Though this can be stimulated through a vibrator (the deep vibrations are able to reach underneath), it is less sensitive than the tip, which can be stimulated through foreplay and intercourse.
Foreplay: Rub your thumbs in little circles around the clit while licking the head with a pointed tongue.
Position: In the missionary position, while you thrust inside the woman, she can do a downward roll of the pelvis. This will provide direct friction to the clit.
This is a small area of sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on both sides of the urethral opening. In other words, just above the vaginal opening. This can be stimulated by gently caressing it with the finger, tongue, or tip of the penis.
Foreplay: Lick the inner part of the vaginal lips, right above the clit. The inner part of her lips get licked, right above clit. Slip well lubricated fingers in and gently move them horizontally and vertically, or in circles.
Position: With the head of your penis (which doesn’t need to be erect) play around her vagina, where the U-Spot is located. Combine with clitoris stimulation since the U-Spot stimulation alone won’t cause an orgasm.
Also known as the Grafenberg Spot (named after the discoverer, Ernst Graferberg. This is a highly sensitive patch located on the upper wall of the vagina, 5-8 cm in from the vaginal opening. It is a bumpy patch that is, according to Grafenberg, “a primary erotic zone, perhaps more important than the clitoris.”
Foreplay: Insert the first two fingers 5-8 cm inside the vagina. Position the fingers at 12:15 and make a “come hither” motion.
Position: The woman lies down on a table (or bed with many pillows) with her back slightly angled. Her legs are up and slightly toward her breasts. You stand in front of her and enter slowly. Keep the thrusts shallow at first and then go deeper. Alternate.
Also known as the AFE Zone or Anterior Fomix Erogenous Zone. This the female equivalent to the male prostate, known as “female degenerated prostate.” It’s located just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. In other words, between the cervix and the bladder. This is a patch of sensitive tissue that causes women to lubricate and contract violently when stimulated.
Foreplay: Slide the fingers halfway up the vaginal wall. You’ll touch an area that is larger than the G-spot and a little bit rougher to the touch than the wall.
Position: Missionary style again, only this time, it’s the advanced version. The woman has her legs drawn to her breasts. You hold her legs apart with your arms and suspend yourself. This way, you’ll be able to get in deep.
Toy: AFE vibrator
A word about female ejaculation…
When women experience a powerful orgasm, some are able squirt liquid from their urethral opening. Don’t worry, it’s not pee; it’s a seminal liquid, not unlike the male spooge. The difference between male and female cum lies in the consistency and volume. Female cum is more like water, and can range from a couple of drops to almost two cups. Women who experience ejaculation (God love them) feel like they are about to urinate, but that’s just the muscular exertions of their orgasm. One man actually divorced his wife because he thought she peed on him every time they had sex. (Every time!?) Don’t make the same mistake. Instead, feel proud of yourself. Female ejaculation is a rare and beautiful thing (and something I have yet to experience).
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It wasn’t long ago that the G-spot was considered ground zero for the O. Now it’s a controversial one: Last year some researchers emphatically claimed that it doesn’t exist and that all women’s orgasms are alike.
Other experts—and lots of women—beg to differ, and they even go a bit further, claiming that several other hot spots can help bring a woman to the brink and push her over the edge. Either way, it’s fun to test the theories.
Maybe you’ve found, or attempted to find, your partner’s G-spot. In addition to that bedroom bull’s-eye, researchers in Turkey have identified four regions that they call “deep vaginal erogenous zones.
In some women, all four zones can independently trigger an O, the Turkish study found.
But even if your mate doesn’t end up curling her toes, “it can be a bonding experience of adventure and exploration,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., the author of Touch Me There! “The more areas you find that are sensitive, the more options you have for warming up her body.”
Ready to start your search? Grab some lube, and prepare to discover pleasure points that you and your partner never knew existed.
Follow the front wall of her vagina until just before you reach her cervix. There you’ll find her A-spot, says Fulbright.
Swipe your finger across it like a windshield wiper, says Jaiya (no last name), the author of Red Hot Touch. If you feel “divots” on either side, you’re too close to the entrance—that’s her G-spot. Scoot in an inch or two.
The vagina responds only to pressure or movement, not touch, says sexual-health expert Jennifer Berman, M.D., a cohost of The Doctors.
So try what Jaiya calls the “anchor and pull.” After tubing up and lots of foreplay, plant the padded part of your finger on her A-spot.
If you can’t reach it, use the end of a long, curved toy, like the njoy Pure Wand (njoytoys.com, $110). Pull your finger across the front wall, toward you. “You know your efforts are paying off when she gets wetter,” says Fulbright.
Located her G-spot? Congrats! Rotate your finger toward the opposite wall and go a little deeper until you feel a spongy area on the back wall of her vagina. That’s her O-spot.
Has she been hesitant to try backdoor action? “The anal walls are rich in nerve endings, so stimulating the O-spot gives a woman a better sense of what might feel good on the other side of the wall,” says Fulbright.
Once she’s fully aroused, try the anchor-and-pull technique on her O-spot and her G-spot at the same time.
“Put the backs of your hands together, with one palm facing up and the other facing down,” says Jaiya. Then insert both index fingers inside her, simultaneously stimulating the front and back walls of her vagina. “Some women can ejaculate from that,” she says. Another option: Stimulate her O-spot with the classic come-hither motion.
With deep penetration, you can touch her cervix with your penis. “It feels sort of like the tip of your nose—firmer than the spongy texture of the vagina,” says Lisa Masterson, M.D., of Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in L.A.
For most women, the cervix sits 3% to 4% inches in, but that’s before arousal. “With engorgement, the cervix lifts up,” Dr. Berman says, but you should still be able to reach it.
Keep track of her period: It’s around ovulation (usually day 13 to 16 of her cycle) that cervical stimulation tends to be most pleasurable, says Jaiya.
Circle her cervix with a finger or two; once you make direct contact, slowly glide over the area, applying firm, gentle pressure, until she feels a deep, almost total-body pleasure. If your finger isn’t long enough, Fulbright suggests using a vibrator with a broad head; you want pressure, not poking.
You can’t touch her pelvic floor muscles directly, but you can activate them. “They encircle the vagina,” Fulbright says, “and contract when she climaxes.”
A 2014 Brazilian study found that young women with strong pelvic floor muscles tend to be more orgasmic. Why? If these muscles are toned, they can tighten up during sex and not tire out, helping her finish, Dr. Masterson says.
Your partner probably knows the most effective way— Kegel exercises, says Fulbright. Have fun with them: Buy a set of Ben Wa balls, such as Jimmyjane’s Prysm Sphen ($22, jimmyjane.com), which are like weights for her vagina.
Lube one up, slip it inside her, and see if she can hold it in; add the second when she’s ready. It’s fun and arousing, and beyond strengthening her pelvic muscles, “the balls can roll over the G-spot and stimulate it,” says Fulbright.